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Can Men And (Married) Women Be Friends? And...Getting Marijuana From Your Kid

DEAR CAT: I was friends with a guy for a long time but he never suggested hanging out until after I got married. Recently I told him that I love him as a friend and suddenly he no longer wants to be friends at all.

DEAR CAT: I have a friend whose son gave him a marijuana cigarette and he accepted it! I was shocked and appalled at this exchange. I don’t know his wife’s response to this, but what do you think?

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Tuesday, June 23, 2009
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Dating A Coworker (Or So He Thought) & Skimpy Bikinis Threaten Property Values

DEAR CAT: One of my coworkers was very friendly with me for a long time. I had a crush on her, then suddenly she stopped the attention. One day she casually mentioned that she’s dating someone. Was I just a backup plan in case things didn’t work out with them?

DEAR CAT: Our new neighbors are more ‘open’ than we like. The wife sunbathes in skimpy bikinis on the front lawn. I feel this type of display downgrades the neighborhood. I feel that I should express this to her, for the sake of property values. Your call?

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Tuesday, June 16, 2009
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Getting 'Friended' After Chemo & He Says, "I Love You," And She Says...

DEAR CAT: Last year I was diagnosed with cancer and began months of chemotherapy. I am happy to say I beat it and am now cancer-free! My question: Am I damaged goods, so to speak, when it comes to women and dating now? Since I’ve had limited success in the past with women, it seems that being a cancer survivor is a strike against me.

DEAR CAT: I’ve been seeing “Jane” for four months and it’s the best relationship I’ve ever had in my life. I told her that I love her and she was very happy, but she didn’t say it back! That’s not the result I was hoping for, but I think it’s prudent to wait a little longer rather than end this amazing relationship…

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Tuesday, June 09, 2009
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Single And Happy (But A Little Bit Lonely) & Becoming An Errand Girl

DEAR CAT: People find it bizarre that I am 22 and have yet to be in a serious relationship. I like my independence, I avoid the typical behavior engaged in by other guys, I excel in grad school and get along well at work. Yet a somewhat lonely (but healthy) ego ensues…

DEAR CAT: A few months ago I started a new job that I like a lot. My boss is great but he quickly made a habit of asking me to do personal errands for him. Is there a way to respectfully decline these errands without ‘rocking the job boat’?

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Tuesday, June 02, 2009
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His Friend Flaunts An Affair & Social Networking O.D.

DEAR CAT: One of my married coworkers admitted he is having an affair, yet he says his marriage is good! I don’t say much when he talks about it but I am disgusted he could do this to his wife because she is a very nice lady…

DEAR CAT: I used to keep in touch with people through email and phone. That was enough contact, or so I thought. Now I am on many social networking websites but I don’t enjoy it. Is there a way to stay connected to people without feeling like I’m missing something important if I don’t do it?

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Tuesday, May 26, 2009
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